Whether you want to get more organized, lose weight, or cook more family dinners, whatever your goal is, there are a few things you can do to help yourself actually attain it:
First, focus on the WHY of your goal. Wanting to lose weight is a goal many people have, but is it because you feel self-concious around your skinny friends, or so you can prevent the onset of Diabetes? Those are two very different reasons that will require different actions to achieve the goal. Knowing your WHY will help you determine the actions you will need to take. Want more motivation? Write your WHY on post-its and put them on your bathroom mirror, on your computer, and in your car and read it aloud at least 20 times a day.
Next, be realistic. If your goal is to cook a homecooked dinner every night for your family, but you can’t remember the last time you turned on your stove, scale your goal down a little. Focus on cooking dinner once a week for your family. Once you have that routine down, add another day. There is no shame in starting small. Having repeated small success is way more motivating than having big failures.
Finally, if you do fall off the wagon, get back on! If you organize your desk and a week later it’s messy again, that does not mean that you are doomed to be a messy slob for the rest of your life. Allow youself to learn from the mistakes that you made and start over again. There is an old Japanese proverb: “Fall seven times. Get up eight.” In other words, it doesn’t matter how many times you fail at your goal, as long as you attempt it just ONE more time than you fail.
Remember that it takes about 30 days to form a habit. Commit to one day at a time, and sooner than you know, you will be living proof of achieving your goal!